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Closeness: Navigating the Fine Line

The Doe Team

by The Doe Team

| November 4, 2021

What closeness means, the benefits of close relationships and how to cultivate closeness without being trapped in an echo chamber.

Closeness offers many physical, mental and emotional benefits. But cultivating close relationships can be difficult. Meanwhile, some get trapped in their echo chamber as they strive to become close to others. Find out how to benefit from closeness without being blindsided.

To navigate civil discourse constructively, we need the insights, tools and narratives to hold space for conflict.

We need to distance ourselves from our own biases and preconceptions to examine a subject matter objectively. 

But how can we detach ourselves from years of conditioning and start seeing the world through a different lens? How can we be sure that our opinions aren’t influenced by the information we absorb from the social media echo chamber?

Getting to the core of our values and beliefs is critical to cultivating the awareness we need to think independently and critically. Yet, overcoming the inertia can be daunting.

That’s why we created the Doe Prints personality assessment to help you take the first step by understanding your defining values: closeness, stability, curiosity, goodwill and openness. These values are the foundation of who you are, but they can also end up as the building blocks of your personal echo chamber if you aren’t aware of their influence on your thoughts and behaviors.

In this article, we’ll examine the first value: closeness.


The Doe Prints Personality Quiz: Closeness

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, closeness refers to “the quality of knowing someone very well, liking them a lot and wanting to spend a lot of time together.”

Closeness evokes the feeling of connection and belonging, often from positive and supportive interpersonal relationships.

If you score high on closeness in our personality assessment, you relish being connected to family and setting up a home—a basic human need we all thrive on at varying degrees.

The Benefits of Cultivating Closeness in Our Lives

When we feel loved, supported and encouraged by those around us, our lives are enriched. We flourish with the support of others. We feel empowered and motivated to return the favor.

Closeness with others helps reduce chronic stress, which erodes the body’s natural ability to fight off disease. Supportive relationships strengthen our immune system and allow us to live healthier lives.

Closeness also helps us become more resilient to adversity. When we’re socially connected, we can cope with challenging or stressful events more effectively.

On the other hand, social isolation can increase morbidity and mortality. The lack of closeness with others can affect our ability to think and sleep. It can lead to stress, anxiety and depression.


Cultivating Closeness With Others

Closeness with family, a romantic partner, a friend or a community helps increase life satisfaction. 

We can have different types of closeness with others: physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and experiential.

We can foster a close relationship through cultivating trust, acceptance, honesty, safety, compassion, affection and communication.

But closeness with others doesn't come easy for many people.

Sensitivity to rejection and fear of intimacy can paralyze us from opening up and allowing others in. We may fear judgment, abandonment or criticism. These fears can be rooted in our past or stem from what we perceive or assume others value. 

To overcome our fears, we must be able to distance ourselves from our conditioning. We can do so by reading anonymous narratives from others. They give us a mirror to reflect on our own thoughts and behaviors.


Navigating Closeness in Today's Digital World

We live in a connected world. We can stay in touch with others around the world via social media and technology.

But as we strive to build relationships, it’s easy to focus on what we have in common with those closest to us. Sometimes, we do so to become included in a community at the expense of staying true to our values.

We can become tunnel-visioned, focusing on the similarities between our values and those of the people in our social circles—creating an echo chamber in which we share only the opinions and preferences that would be accepted by people around us.

Echo chambers lead to an atmosphere of intolerance and circular thinking, making it difficult for anyone to learn from others and see alternative perspectives.

It takes conscious effort to change this, and The Doe is here to give you the tools. 

Our anonymous narratives by authors from all walks of life help our members break out of their echo chambers and see the world through a different lens.

Meanwhile, the Doe Prints personality assessment helps you understand how your core personality traits, potential prejudices and internal motivations shape how you see the world and interact with others.

Meaningful and long-term changes start from understanding who we are and where our current perspectives came from. When we know ourselves better, we can understand the different lenses that influence our perspective. We can also better understand how other people see the world and why they act the way they do to become more empathetic toward those around us.

Have you taken the Doe Prints personality assessment? What insights did you get, and how do they change your perspective? Be sure to subscribe to our blog for more deep dives into personality traits and our Doe Prints quiz.


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