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The sound of footsteps outside your door; the feel of a hand a little too close; the smell of a stale, quiet room; the taste of homemade lasagna; the article that hits too close to home. Our triggers take the form of sensory stimuli, sending us into waves of emotions, like grief, anger or confusion.
This reminds me of something.
This tense recognition doesn’t always make sense, and you might find yourself having a disproportionate reaction to the stimulus.
At that moment, you might not be able to put your finger on it, but your body can. Your physical and emotional reactions are the signs of an emotional or psychological trigger.
Something lives just beyond the trigger, be it a past hurtful relationship, grief or any type of traumatic event that went unhealed.
It’s a common human experience, even if it does feel isolating and confusing at the moment.
We know a lot of our narratives contain triggering content, so this blog will explore helpful tips in dealing with your triggers as well as providing resources so you can continue to process and engage in an honest and effective way.
We consume a ton of content on the daily, running the risk of encountering a triggering stimulus. It could range from an inexplicable yet mild discomfort to a full-blown anxiety attack. This can affect how you process content and your ability to engage.
Consider written content as an example.
Say you’re browsing through a narrative, see a trigger warning at the top and continue reading. Partway through the narrative, you stumble upon a paragraph, be it a description or an account of something that transports you to a time you hoped to never revisit.
Your reaction is visceral. You become conscious of the heat in your blood, and your body feels as though it’s pumping emotion. You’re no longer able to continue reading the narrative with a clear head, let alone engage in discourse about this particular topic.
You’ve been triggered and you just don’t know what to do.
Here are some tips in dealing with your triggers:
It’s tough to remain objective in the midst of a triggered response, but practicing these tips can help you navigate the moment and seek out resources that will continue your healing.
Not only is getting triggered part of the complex human experience, but in 2022, we’re getting more and more equipped to handle these sorts of experiences with the help of others. Here are resources that can help you process your triggers:
These resources are available for reflecting as well as for use mid-trigger. You don’t have to endure these tough moments alone.
Addressing your triggers enables you to make the forward movement needed to get to a place where they no longer destabilize you mid-paragraph or song. Learning to process your triggers in a healthy way allows you to consume a range of content and expand your perspective, ultimately making it possible for you to engage without the fear of a trigger holding you back.
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